I realized something today. Sometimes I think what a girl is looking for in a man is another girl. Bear with me, I know this sounds weird. But suddenly this makes so much sense to me. I have a few very special girl friends in my life and its amazing…they just GET you. They understand what no guy ever is able to pick up on. They listen! They NOTICE when you are sighing, they know exactly WHY you are sighing and even better, they know EXACTLY what to say to help you no longer sigh. It is most likely because they have felt just like you before. They are able to reach a part of you that just melts away all your frustration and stress; you feel the relief flood through your mind as you say “Yes! That’s it exactly!” Sometimes I think we expect men to be these sensitive, incredibly tuned in, aware creatures who will sit and share their feelings and thoughts with us. But really we are trying to make them into girls! Thinking about this realistically, I think God made men for other purposes. Purposes which are so important and so wonderful and so life-giving, that it is very apparent that women NEED men.
But sometimes the roles get jumbled, communication gets hazy, and one big fat misunderstanding later, the girl is in devastated tears and the guy is upset and utterly confused. Understanding is the key. It is unfair sometimes to get mad at guys when they give you a two word response to a loaded question which they have no idea carries such unfathomable meaning. Such as if a girl asked: Do you think Suzy looked pretty today?
Girl Translation: He talked a lot to Suzy today. She is beautiful and funny and I feel like a toad when compared to her. If he says she was pretty and seems genuine about his answer then I will know all my jealous and upset feelings are true and he indeed likes her more than me. They will probably even start dating! If he answers no or like he really didn’t notice Suzy’s appearance then I will know that he doesn’t think I am a toad and that she really wasn’t that much of a notice to him….and of course, if he REALLY loves me he wouldn’t say she looked pretty because he would realize how jealous and upset that would make me.
Usually, these kind of situations don’t end well. Girls need to not jump to conclusions and realize how they evaluate a situation is not necessarily how a man evaluates it. Being a girl and I hate saying this, but yes, we are too emotional, too vague, and too complicated.A boy teases us one day with playful and physical banter and we think that he is flirting with us and that he likes us. One thought leads to another, and we are totally smitten with this beau, we think about him all day, we visit his Facebook page every day, we are in torment when he doesn’t text, and consequently are devastated when we see him play with another girl just like he had with us. What a player! What a slime! Oh the tragedy! I think if men just tried to put themselves inside the head of a girl they would realize how easily we feel insecure and vulnerable. How easily our hearts break. I think if men knew how many tears had been cried over them, they would be astounded...and much more careful in the future.
God told husbands to understand their wives… to be aware of how fragile a girl’s heart is, to know that affirmation and affection and attention are the lifeblood of a woman’s heart. To understand that the soul of the relationship is in the small things—listening to her talk about a bad day, surprising her with a flower, doing the dishes, telling her how much she is appreciated, opening the door for her, showing others that you are proud of her, giving her little words of praise—all the small things are what makes a woman feel adored and loved!
This post does not feel cohesive. It feels random, splattered with past emotion, and hastily written in a precariously sloppy weekend manner. What got me off on this topic? I think I was thinking of how awesome my sister was, how in-tune she was with my mood today and I began to realize how amazing the joys of sisterhood are. That then led me off on my passionate opinions about men/women problems. Sigh...
